Leila Neve column: ‘Staying positive is the best way’

Charlotte and Leila Neve (S)
Charlotte and Leila Neve (S)
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Hello, you lovely lot! How are your Easter holidays going so far?

We’re trying to have a lazy time of it but it’s not going to plan, as we seem to have been bitten by the decorating bug!

I’m reminded that it’s my column’s second birthday! I really can’t express enough how much this column means to me, or how thankful I am to Leader Times Newspapers for allowing me to connect with you all. To have such wonderful support from all of you readers really does mean the world to me, so I’m sending a huge thank you hug to each and every one of you.

We are fast approaching the three-year mark of Charlotte’s brain haemorrhage and strokes.

I don’t think I’ll ever be able to say that I’m over it but I have to say that as the healing process has continued, I’ve become far more accepting of the situation and able to deal with it.

In the beginning, the most prominent emotion was anger towards this “thing” that had, to my mind, taken away the future which Charlotte was beginning to dream of.

In my darker moments, I often wondered whether it would have been kinder to Charlotte to have had the issues from day one rather than get to age seven, have dreams of a “red car with no roof”, love keeping fit and enjoy reading and school just to have it all taken away.

Three years into it all, though, and I’ve come to realise that Charlotte was born with these issues, we just didn’t know about any of it until she was seven.

Yes, Friday,, April 13th, 2012, was, and always will be one of the most terrifying, heartbreaking days of my life, second only to Tuesday,, April 17th, 2012, but they are also the luckiest days of our lives.

Charlotte had a huge aneurism from birth and that aneurism could have ruptured at any time, on any day and killed her instantly but it waited.

It waited until she was safely tucked up next to me, who woke up just in time and just managed to keep her alive long enough for proper help to arrive. This is, and always has been part of Charlotte’s story and keeping perspective, staying positive and sticking together is the best way forward.